Celebrating Birthmother’s Day
It is common knowledge that in the United States we celebrate Mother’s Day on the second Sunday in May. We may take our mom out to a nice lunch or treat her to a relaxing day at the spa. Whatever we do, we do it to show our love and appreciation for her.
You may not know, however, that in the adoption community, Birthmother’s Day is often celebrated on the Saturday before Mother’s Day. Many families set this day aside to honor the love this precious woman has for her child and her role in their child’s life. Celebrating Birthmother’s Day will look different for each family. If the family and birthmom have an ongoing relationship, they may spend the day celebrating together. Perhaps the family will mail her a card or gift to acknowledge her love for the child. Maybe they will have the child create a piece of custom artwork to send to her.
Even in instances where there is no contact, celebrating Birthmother’s Day is not only possible but important. The family may create a tradition they revisit each year to celebrate their child’s birthmother. This could be having a cake made in her honor, or going to a park and releasing a balloon into the sky to acknowledge her role in bringing this child into their forever family.
The reasons to celebrate Birthmother’s Day are as numerous and unique as the many birthmothers in the world. One important reason is to give adopted children an opportunity to reflect on and celebrate the women who first loved them and gave them life.
Let’s remember this Mother’s Day weekend that we are celebrating all kinds of mothers and the love they have for their children. Here are a few ideas for Birthmother’s Day gifts:
- Handmade jewelry from Lisa Leonard Designs or AmyCornwell.com
- A photo book from Snapfish, Shutterfly or Mixbook
- A craft made by children specifically for their birthmom
- A card specifically for Birthmother’s Day
We would love to hear from you. How do you celebrate Birthmother’s Day?